tonight when speaking about general stuff H asked if my L was back from holidays. Said I would follow her up. Then we spoke about D. In essence the conversation was a bit confusing. These are the main points;
H said that we need to organise financial settlement but H would never re-marry so D wasn't essential to him but if I wanted D we should proceed.
H said D is a piece of paper only so nothing would change between us and in fact, it could signify a new beginning and put the pain in the past.
I said I thought D was inevitable. I commented that I had already worked hard to put the past behind me and I was happy with the progress I had made and the D paper wouldn't change that. However, I also felt D could disconnect us. H said we would always be connected as parents. I agreed but said that I was talking more about the connection between us. He said, "Don't do it then."
I did not expect this conversation and I am not sure what to make of it.
