BOTH HER AND HER MOM said to me "It's ALWAYS about you having the UPPER HAND. You MAKE this a power struggle, and use whatever means you can to come out on top".
They said that because I said I "refused to roll over and be forced out of my home".
This is projection. Those two keep trying to force things and exploit situations.
She filed for divorce - hand She started the sex chats in secret - hand She moved out - hand
Your wife turned this into a battle of wills not you. I think you know that already, but I will at least point this out so you don't think you are crazy.
I think the above is just garbage you can disregard as a pathetic attempt to intimidate you into doing whatever your wife wants.
She is hurting QS, and she's stress out about the move as well. BUT, she CHOSE to cheat on you with a married man (again I am driving this one home because its a MUCH MORE SERIOUS offence than the military guy) and then when you asserted a boundary and drove consequences home she couldn't take it. Your wife was embarassed you caught her with the hands in the cookie jar so she ran out and got a new place to HIDE.
All of that crap above? Pay it no mind.
Things you could also list in the letter are things you did to improve the situation for her. The memorial for the pup, the work on the home, hirring the Family Therapist, anything you did to make life easier there for the both of you.
Put it in a numbered list ... And if you hold that against a list of our wife's offences it will make it pretty clear to any courtroom who was cooperating and who was antagonizing the situation. We can add that to the letter.
