After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Quicksilver264]

What is the objective?

a. To show her you aren't clinging or holding onto the marriage
b. To get her to admit to you that you are over her

Neither, it is:

C) To absolutely clarify my position in writing about staying in the house, setting boundaries with her visiting, and to let her unequivocally know whether she believes it or not that I have had it with her AS SHE IS NOW. And to stand up for myself against accusations that I am selfish, vindictive and spiteful.

Just because I don't cave into her demands doesn't mean I am vidictive.

BOTH HER AND HER MOM said to me "It's ALWAYS about you having the UPPER HAND. You MAKE this a power struggle, and use whatever means you can to come out on top".

They said that because I said I "refused to roll over and be forced out of my home".

That's not to say if SHE makes CHANGES in her life I wouldn't reconsider, but AS SHE IS NOW, I am DONE with her.

Yes I am sad and hurt, and I will continue to protect myself and my home. And I will continue to run intel BECAUSE she is trying to do the same to me and DICTATE how I will live my life in my OWN home. She actually had the nerve to accuse me of "adultery", and THEN say what she did "isn't the same thing as adultery, and that she will abide by the marriage laws and be celibate". REALLY? She is a LIAR through and through.

But BOTH of them need to read what I have to say, and if they STILL don't get it, then that is their problem.

But I am interested in your thoughts as to if/how this can backfire. I can lay off the letter of you think it's best. I am also up for other suggestions as well.

Oh, and she also said yesterday when I asked if I could do anything for her sick grandmother who has really always been kind to me:

"If you really want to help my family, you can start by helping me. Get my name off the mortgage and help my family that way. My parents and I need THAT help".