Hey, congrats to you for heading off another argument!
Remember, in situations like the hair thing, just shrug your sholders and say, "Don't know" and move on. If you begin the guessing game then you've entered the door to argue. You did head it off...so that was a great move for you.
When you've asked your W for password to FB, etc., have you gave yours to her? You see, if she has nothing to hide...then there would be no reason for her to withhold a password.
Are you thinking about what your boundaries will be?
Good job at not caving when you saw her nude! I know that must have been very difficult. Now, here's a word of warning, at some point she will probably use sex to see that she still can use that as her tool to control you. If you are strong enough to have the attitude of "Thanks but no thanks", that will show her that you are in control of yourself and that ML will not be a "controlling tool" in your M.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
