my complicated story

[A_goodman]

Dude.

Ordinarilly, I would wait for the jedis to find you and give you the best advice, but as I know what they're going to say, I'll just skip the wait and rush in.

YOU ARE A DOORMAT! I'm sorry to be so harsh, but the Only way you are ever going to break this cycle is to be shocked into some semblance of manhood. I empathize, I was formally a doormat too.

Read any post on this site that Sandy2 has ever written about this. She knows of what she speaks. Also start reading threads. Spend the hours you do now pining away for your wayward wife doing something constructive instead. Look fo similarities and the advice given. Anything by Robx, Coach, Puppy Dog Tails, Gucci Loafer, Ready to Change you pay special attention to. There are others, but those off the top of my head will do you well.

Buddy, you have GOT to grow a pair yesterday. This is going to end badly for you if you don't. I'm sorry for your pain. Believe me I understand it well. I'm sorry that your W may be in poor health. I'm sorry for your M, but honestly, you need this program so that you will have the strength to live through this.

The pros would tell you to move back in your house. If it is in both your names, she cannot compell you to leave. Who is it that wants to be seperated. Well, that would be the person who needs to go

At least ten times reading your story I said: "You did WHAT?". Get your bank card back today. Stop mowing the damn lawn. Don't EVER do his damn work again. Tell her whole family about this $hit. Do you really care if he gets fired?All you're doing is making it easier for her to destroy your life. Kick his ass out of YOUR house. Call the sherrif and have him removed as a trespasser. Your W will be pissed. So what? Tell me, honestly, what will that make her do that she isn't doing already?

Most Importantly, get councelling today. Screw the MC. Get a councellor for yourself. Do not stop, do not pass go, get it done first thing in the morning. Suicidal thoughts are nothing to F around with. If you haven't slept in 50 hours and have ever thought about offing yourself, you are not in a safe place. Nobody would be.

PLEASE do this. As much as I laid on you, Ir eally do hurt for you. I know where you are first hand. If you were my friend, hell if I knew where you
lived, I would go straight there and not leave your side until you were being seen by a professional who could deterine you were ok to be alone. Call a friend or a family member. People care about you and want to help. Nothing is so bad that you can't live through it. The other posts are a good example of that.

God watch over and keep you.