IMO, if your XH is not the one seeking IC, then I'm not sure it will do him much good. As the cliche goes, you can lead a horse to water... Your XH has to be the one to want the change. Do you know if he recognize any of his issues?
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I suppose that honest communication is key to sorting this out........but I am confused. From others' posts it sounds as though when piecing begins it takes a fairly long time before the LBS can begin to communicate honestly with the WAS, so I have some concern about these issues lingering if reconciliation occurs.
Again IMO, there is communicating and then there is pushing (I'm really good at pushing!). Communicating isn't bad if you are following the MLCer's lead. Does your H ever talk about issues or your relationship. If he doesn't, can you maybe give him a few prompts to see if it can get him started?
I have to express to you that patience is the key here. Now I say that but you also have to relize that there are people who do get stuck and can't move one direction or the other. You have to be the judge of whether or not there is movement on your XH's part.
In my sitch, I wonder now if I was just another bandaid keeping my H from dealing with his issues. He was comfortable knowing I would be there. As our counselor told us, people need motivation to change and deal with their issues. What do you think would be your XH's motivation?
