Newmama and I were joking on her thread about what to say to nosy coworkers, but I really do want an opinion here.
I see about 20 coworkers on a daily basis and about 200+ monthly. The 200+ aren't close to me, but we do work together. And they all know that I am (was) married to Mr. A.
Moreover, I have had this job for so long that they knew me BEFORE I was married to Mr. A. But we lived together for a long time before we got married, so nobody at my job knew me when I wasn't "with" him. They were all so happy when we finally took the plunge! (barfing now)
The people at work range from totally hands-off to super-intrusive. It would be great to have a one-line-fits-all approach to breaking the news of my D (which I now feel that I need to do), but I'm seriously debating about it. I WOULD LOVE SOME INPUT!!!!
Idea 1:
Not talk at all about Mr. A. and just say, "Oh, we split" when someone brings it up. Good because it shuts down further questioning. Bad because it's super passive and it really doesn't tell MY truth.
Idea 2:
Not to talk about Mr. A but, when asked, to say, "Mr. A has left me. I don't think we're getting back together. Let's not talk about it. Now what's up with work?"
Can I pull that off? Don't know. At least I would be true to myself about the situation with Mr. A, but would I start crying? I mean, would I be worse off by divulging more?
Idea 3:
"Yeah, I've been wanting to tell you that Mr. A left me. Let's not talk about it. Work is work!"
UGH. Please let me know what you guys think. None of these options sound very good.
Yep, none of these approaches seems right to me, so I hope somebody has a better idea!!!!
