What a great discussion. And one with so much that I needed to read. Sometimes it's just incredibly helpful to have one's own realizations validated; I guess that's why I'm still reading 28-odd months after I arrived here.
What stands out most--the person who left me is closer to the real person than the one I fell in love wit. I waited more than 16 years for that man to return; surely that would happen if I was patient enough, self-sacrificing enough, loving enough...no, the real xH is the profoundly selfish, immature man who threw his family away when he ran into an old girlfriend. It wasn't that I was unworthy of his love--he just had so little to give.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
