I'm brand new so I don't have advice to offer you but I'm here to listen and lend support.

How much longer were you scheduled to live apart? Was there a time when you were supposed to move back home? How long is this job training supposed to take if it's already been 18 months?

Me 32 H 32
Ds 3.5 and 1.5
M 5 years, T 14 years
EA/Bomb: 7/1/10
PA revealed: 9/14/10
Legally separated: 10/01/10