Susan, you can do this. You can take care of Susan. Crying and weeping is okay. Don't feel bad for your emotions, they're what make us good. Just don't let them cause you to act in ways that are counterproductive. I know that's hard so often. We've spent our lives telling our WASs everything, and now, not sharing those feelings with them is extremely difficult.
Try and avoid R talks. If you get roped into one, let him do the talking and the validating. If he asks you a point blank question, say "I don't know, I'll have to think about that before I can answer you." or something similar. Practice it in front of a mirror!
