QS, what she SAYS isn't necessarily what she actually thinks.
Your wife is all over the place emotionally. You cannot invest ten years into a home and a marriage and NOT fall apart when its ending... She's feeling the effects just like you, but you have learned how to handle them with maturity.
It may very well be the case that now :
a. Some of your good example is finally catching on with her b. SOme of her anger may be dissipating... we warned you it does soften after a few months c. Her mother is there so she knows she has to keep an act up. d. She is feeling the pain of divorce and can't hide it anymore
It could be any mixture of these possibilities... pick any you like...
The point is with all of the above going on, what she says isn't worth anything. Ignore 100% of what she says and 50% of what she does is the guideline.
I think your wife's projecting here. I think SHE feels the attachment haunting her still, particularly given that you are showing a lot of maturity. I think SHE doens't like being haunted by her attachment for you and she's projecting that on you and that's why she can't shut up.
I think both 1 and 2 above is just her projecting what's going on with HER right now... She's transparent as hell in my opinion.
Dude, this is classic psychology.. People criticize others and reveal their own thoughts when they do it.
Do you know how many cheating spouses on this forum have turned and accused their LBS of :
a. Lying b. Cheating c. Sabotaging chances of repairing a marriage
?
Your wife in my opinion is
1) Still attached and clinging
2) "All over the place" with her thoughts words and emotions, and she is INCONSTANT and IRRATIONAL.
Ya, its a repeat of what she said...
Seriously dude, I think she's projecting and revealing her inner turmoil...
Just act like you are indifferent and steer clear.
Any photos offer to scan and print... that saves argument.
