While this is a very sad statement to have to make I often think people think it's okay to ask about divorce because it's such a normal and accepted part of our society.

I agree 110% it's terribly rude and invasive for somebody you don't know well to ask about particulars (who left who and the other examples you shared) but honestly, some people really just don't get it. When something is viewed as "ok and acceptable" people tend to think it's perfectly fine to talk about it with strangers.

I certainly am not siding with the people ask such personal questions but I tend to wonder if they really don't take them as terribly rude!

You wouldn't feel odd if you were at the market and somebody said "nice weather we are having today?".. sadly, divorce is just as common as the weather. It happens each day and to the outsider it's hardly an UNcommon occurrence.

When somebody starts asking me questions that I find too invasive or personal (RE: my divorce) I simply thank them for their concern and let them know it's a highly personal matter and one I do not discuss.

Oh, and cake is NOT junk food smile IMO it's just food. One that should be consumed (heavily) each day!