Glam...he is confusing. I didn't really want him in the house while we were gone and didn't quite know how to respond to his eagerness to please...make dinner etc. I didn't even feel like thanking him. So I just opted for en email to acknowledge his efforts. I sent him this.
"Just wanted to say that it was thoughtful of you to prepare dinner and buy groceries for us when we came back"
His reply
"You’re welcome. I know how it feels to come back to an empty house with nothing ready".
I'm not reading anything into his "niceness" since he is still thinking with his "other" brain and continuing with OW.
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
On Friday H sent me an email saying that he is going to a business networking meeting on Saturday and it would be "better for both of us to go" (his words). I said that I can go but noted that that there doesn't seem to be many people signed up for it...he replied that "I would welcome you coming, but it might be an overkill for this event"....so I agreed with him about the "overkill" and didn't go.
This morning I get an another email telling me how great the meeting was and going on and on about it....this is a first time I see any excitement about business or related activity in months. He also said "I think it would have been great for you to be there".
Again just journaling, observing and recording notable changes....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Couragous Wife just told me she thought I was cycling. Reading over your H's history, it appears so is he. He just cycles more than my washing machine. If your dates are correct, he cycles around the 9th or 10th of each month, not always returning or leaving, but I bet there's something there.
Not that it matters, but I wonder how OW responds to this?
Wonder if this is full moon thing or menstrual cycle?
Hahaha Punkin....I think that in my H's case it may be the full moon...it always had an effect on him....full moon keeps him awake and sometimes gives him vertigo...I know...strange.
As to OW...she has no clue what he does...unless he tells her....as you know she lives 1000 miles away...they didn't see each other since they came back from their European vacation 2 weeks ago.... OW's H just received the Visa bill for last month....she charged $7,000.....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Hi LS - OW's H is keeping track and it will be coming off of her share if they divorce...the reason he is seeing the bills is because all the credit cards are in his name....she has no credit history on her own....and no job as a matter of fact.
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Why in the world is ow's H letting her run up that kind of expense? If it's his name on the card isn't he going to have a hard time proving it's not his debt?
Welcome back!!!!!!!! I know that you're far too classy to take pleasure at the thought that H and OW had a falling out on their trip, so don't worry. I'll get down in that gutter, roll around, and enjoy this myself for you! Actually, I find it hard to believe that anyone could NOT have a great time there. Paris is my favorite city in the whole world!..........so far..........
Just curious, and this is none of my business,....but just curious if your H charged much to your credit card(s) while gone? Have you been able to make progress toward separating your finances? Sounds like the 2 of them are capable of racking up some pretty hefty bills.
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
SA - OW's H is putting legal separation in place....first meeting with his W and lawyers is next week.
GAG - hahaha, I'm not that classy I guess...I would enjoy if they fell in their own poop. About my H's spending on the trip? He gave me his bills, only found a receipt for a gift he bought for D & for some gas...didn't see the actual credit card statement yet....so we will see. Paris is one of my favorite cities as well...that's where we got married
kissak - thank you
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Actually, I find it hard to believe that anyone could NOT have a great time there. Paris is my favorite city in the whole world!..........so far..........
