Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Thanks Sandi. I do understand that she is young, and to be frank very immature. When it comes to serious R talk, she just says, "I'm not going to talk about this", particularily when it comes to something that SHE needs to do to repair this M. She has made NO effort to repair what she has done. Nothing. Instead, she turns the tables on me and trys to make me feel bad for asking for transparency - saying I'm being "controlling" and "like her father". I validate her feelings, and then tell her that I don't want to control her, that's her choice if she's transparent.

Which, by the way, she isn't being transparent anymore. When she gave me her email and FB passwords, I wanted to see if she was still talking to OM, so I tried to logon to her phone account online. Didn't have that pwd, so I reset it, and it emailed her. I got the email, read it - changed the pwd, logged into the phone account, didn't see anything. Well, she got a txt msg on her phone that her password had been changed. She said i violated her trust after she gave me the passwords, and was trying to control her by snooping into her phone account. She then changed the passwords. This was a week ago.

So, I've asked her several times since then if she would be willing to be transparent again, each time she responds with - "I'll think about it." When she was transparent, it felt GREAT... I could back off in confidence knowing that she wasn't doing anything behind my back. It was easy to back off then. But now, it's hard.