I was with my husband through 3 surgeries since he returned from Iraq, and one month after he left, he had rod replacement in his spine, and didn't even feel he needed to let me know. I guess OW was taking care of him. For some reason, this hurt my feelings so bad. I guess it was the need to be needed.
I hope your husband is thinking about needing and being needed. I know that isn't a reason you would want as a R, but it's certainly a start.
