The longer I go without seeing or hearing from STBXW the more I think about those things and ... hope that she'll somehow, someday get better and that'll mean a return to me.
But then I see her or hear from her and realize, like another poster put it, that she's like an Alzheimer's patient. It's the same beautiful face and body, but the person I married is gone.
Exactly. I'm the exact same on both counts. How does it make sense that at times the more I don't see her, the more I do think of her?
And, yes, when I do see her is when I face the stark reality that the person I think of and remember does not exist anymore.
Snodderly was right:
Originally Posted By: Snodderly
Your only choice for healing and renewal is to go on as if she were dead."
As was Susan J. Elliot in Getting Past Your Breakup: "But above all else: forget this person you fell in love with. They are never coming back. The person who left you is more in line with who this person really is than the person you fell in love with."
Peace
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
