Punkin - I just responded to you on my thread. The question comes down to "who are you and what do you believe?" You are not a martyr for standing. You are not a loser if you choose to move on. What works for you? I have a pretty strong sense of what is right and wrong for me. But that's for ME only. I would never think twice about someone else's choices. People may look at me like I'm a complete loon after ALL that my H has done. But my vows are that important to me - it's my faith and part of who I am. If years from now H has divorced me and remarried, etc. then I will have to deal with that. But not today. I have a 16 year old son and two daughters in their 20s that I feel like I MUST model for them commitment to marital vows, faith, etc. So for now - that means I'm standing for a few years. I want them to learn about recovery and forgiveness - I want them to think about things in advance - about who they are and what they want.
You are doing GREAT (at least from the outside here:)) - slow down, don't rush - enjoy your family!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
