Hey, Puppy! Don't get me wrong. I have moments throughout the day when my mind will drift to her for some reason. But it surprises me how quickly that it also "reframes and resets" the thought to a "healthier' view.
e.g. I was shopping with D yesterday for some clothes. I happened to find us next to the womens bathing suits. My brain went to "her" and a hundred memories of our vacations and how good she looked and "would look now" in one. Then quickly to "with him" in one. A bubble of bitterness. But just as quickly, it faded to how shallow that R must be; how "physical only" his view of her is; and how quickly that will fade and become empty. How little he "loves" her compared to what "we" shared. And she will likley experience that "difference" at some point. Then I was thinking "Well, it may be the last time I see "her' in a bikini, but it won't be my last experience with "someone in a bikini". And then my mind went to playing on a beach with D and 'whoever'. And it was gone. 2 minutes?
We finished shopping and went home. I ordered some books I've wanted (should be here for next weekend) and went to a freiends and D played with his girls. The 'sitch" barely came up.
Refreshing.
If anyone has something to add, suggest or caution me about, I'm all ears.
