I just joined and so have not read really much of anything. I'll do some of that today.

Thanks for the advice on DR. I'll have to take a look at it. I know I'm not the only one in this situation, so I'm glad there are boards like this.

Me: 34
H: 34
S: 8
D: 5
M: 10 yrs
T: 12 yrs
Affair: 7-1-10 (lasted 2 months, I caught him by reading emails, there was no sign of stopping until I caught him)
S: 7-16-10