After Exposure - Keep It Going

[TimeHeals]

She said "Did you ever ask yourself WHY she wants to move out? Did you ever ask yourself WHAT ROLE YOU played in all of this?"

In the marriage problems prior to the affairs and nastiness?

I would have stopped her right there. Yes, I know that I played a role in any marriage problems in the past, but I am not responsible for her affairs, online sex chats, and quite frankly... unbecoming behavior. That's all her. If we weren't married and I didn't know her but knew she did that stuff, I wouldn't think it was decent behavior for a respectable woman.

She said I am a "taker" and not a "giver" and that she "feels used in all of this" because I went to her for support and now I am staying in the house and she feels it's hurting EVERYONE immensely.

And my wife said "You won't be DONE with me until you sell this house, sign the divorce papers, and split our cell phone accounts. I will be in your life until those 3 things are done".

"All I want is my name off the mortgage, and I don't care how long you drag out the divorce, I just don't want to pay the mortgage and rent. Until then I have the right to come and go in this house and make sure it is taken care of."

Let the divorce attorneys and court handle this. That's why there is a legal process.