You've missed the battle threads those two questions have opened up. It's all a matter of perspective. Some here hate the term'unconditional love' Others feel it is their very reason for standing for their marriage. There was a long convo not 3 weeks ago about when did standing become bad for you.
I believe that is a matter only you can decide for yourself. My H cancelled our planned vacation because he couldn't get off work. What he really did was go with a girl our son's age to Nebraska. In order to out him, she sent me the vacation pics. I'm still standing, but I believe more for myself than him. I have personal reasons for dragging this out longer than usual.
What you have to remember is that you did nothing wrong. You have no reason to feel guilty about it one way or the other. You do what your heart and your gut tells you to do.
As far as loving no matter what: The love for your children and the love for your husband is as different as the love you have for friends and other family members. As women, we'll defend our children to the death. Our husbands, well, we may not end up continuing as life partners, but I know I will always love him. I just can't let that stop me from having a happy life or throwing away another chance for happiness should it come along.
I'm far from any type of wise sage, but I hope I answered your questions just a bit. And never hesitate to ask. We all from time to time need reassurance that we are doing the right thing for ourselves, and there is usually someone here to help you through the moment.
