Long Distance Issues.....Possible WAW

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I know that saving my marriage is what would be best.

Not as it stands with a wife that is hell-bent on divorce.

It will be a long time before I [am] (sic) right again

Perhaps, perhaps not. You don't really know (and never did) what the future holds.

I will not venture down that path until I am. That I am sure of.

Good. Rebound relationships are just more potential grief to you or whoever you have them with. Empathy dictates that dating with the hope of "using" somebody is just not good. Be careful if you do date, however, because "users" are the norm and not the exception especially as you get older.

Like Puppy said though, I do not want this. I will try and give her what she wants as long as it is in the best interest of me and my kids. The hard part of that is, I know that saving my marriage is what would be best. It's a very slippery slope and I can't stand to be on it.

This isn't what you wanted, but fighting (reasoning, trying to woo her over, etc) your wife is not going to change the way she feels, and she is acting on her feelings. Her feelings, your feelings (and the feelings of any readers reading this) will change, though, so we usually recommend you let principles dictate your actions, and not your feelings.

She is pulling away, she wants divorce, you give her what she wants happily. Seriously, it's not as bad as you think. One way or another you are going to be fine... more than fine really.