you signed the paperwork (which I hope you read, just scanned through your sitch and apparently she gave you a 2nd set of papers after the first got stolen, I hope the 2nd batch wasn't "modified"), not let her be.
You are free from this craziness, take a break from her, from the idea of being divorced, from db'ing, and just focus on you for a bit, take care of yourself, hang out with some friends and get your mind off this stuff, seriously you can go crazy always thinking about this stuff.
