WAW says she wants to come back

[newmama]

Otherise, he is at least nothing more than insurance for her

wow- I LOVE that expression because YES it is that way! Except if we are pining for them, WE become the insurance! Like they can just gamble with the OP and know if it fails, we will be there.


One more thing--we have the right to divorce someone who cheats on us and our kids will completely understand down the line when they learn why we divorced. I mean we, the LBS, "are right" in both scenarios
1) we stayed to stand and fight for our marriage
2) we divorced the parent because cheating is a breach of marriage vows (and it is a commandment if you are religious, right?)

if we remarry we show that if both spouses are willing to do the work, remarriage after divorce is possible.

Oh and another thing-- please go to the infidelity forum and read the post that Hopeforus just made. The affair is NOT our fault...it is all of the WS' doing. Sure, we could have done things to weaken the marriage but we didn't deserve "cheating" as a punishment so to speak. If that makes sense. ANd our WSs made mistakes, too,before their A.

And you are dissolving this ruined marriage...a new one can take place if she does the work. (and you still want to give her the chance)