damn it-- I think I get why most of us on here are still pining a little for our spouses or go up and down...we do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
In my case, I disagree. I don't want a girlfriend/relationship. FWB might be different But I am nowhere near relationship ready. Not by a long shot. I still pine and go up and down because my life was yanked out from under me, my world turned upside down and my future stolen. Without explanation. I pine and go up and down because I still am on the Mourn/Grieve-Detach-Fine-Mourn/Grieve roller coaster, even when I think I've long since gotten off of it.