I need to be put in my place.... I had a conversation with a friend of mine tonight...her brother is going thru a divorce. She doesn't believe that her brother had an A but she also doesn't put it past him. He is seeing somebody already...so the writing is on the wall.
Discussing her brother's divorce led us into multiple relationship discussions. She said to me 'Lola, no offense....but I don't think I would have stuck around as long as you did'....'I have a kid..I would try one time...but your H did it again'....'I think at that point...I would have walked away...I have too much self respect'.
I asked her how she felt about unconditional love..I asked her if she would love her son no matter what he did. She said 'hell yes'....but she also said she didn't feel the same way about her husband. It is a different kind of love. Her and her H are all their son has. Her H has plenty of other people to depend on.
So I am struggling with the following:
1) I think I already know the answer.....but....at what point is standing for your marriage...compromising your self respect?
2) Does unconditional love between two adults really exist? or is this just a myth that we preach and read about
