You are welcome. I can tell you are a caring and thoughtful person. Nothing wrong with doing DB /180 to get your wife back. You get it, saying you want to be a better man. And you will be no matter what.
I agree- this website is so great, so many diverse opinions and so much wonderful advice.
Books are very helpful-like the titles of the ones you just bought. I just bought "The 5 Love Languages", by Gary Chapman, on advice of my coach, Laurie. I find myself spending hours reading these days.
I heard a quote somewhere the other day. "Nut up or shut up". I like that! And since you bought 'Holding onto your N.U.T.s, I thought I'd share that with you! lol