WAW says she wants to come back

[newmama]

You might want to inquire in the Piecing forum...but having followed others' threads/lives, this bothers me:

There is OM in the picture whom W says she will absolutely give up IF I can commit to trying on the marriage again.

Ok. Until maybe March-April of 2010 in my sitch, I was willing to accept this. BUT here is the issue....she still HAS OM and will just jump back to you with OM in the picture? The risk is too great for a false reconciliation...

The hard line, but the line that you deserve, is that she must be willing to drop OM altogether. Whether or not you will drop the divorce. She must:

1)write a no contact letter to OM
2)follow transparency (i.e. you check her cell phone, email, get a full account of where she has been, she calls you, etc.)
3) she HAS to go to IC even before you go to MC together to figure out how she got into this mess and to make sure she doesn't repeat it

So think LIFE here...so what if this doesn't happen in the next 2 weeks and your marriage is officially dissolved...in the end, if she proves herself, you can re-marry. In fact, can't they go back and remove the dissolution after the fact?

Honestly, you deserve a woman who will be willing to do whatever it takes to get you back after the worst thing she could do to you.

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AND YOU must be willing and ready to accept NO LESS than those conditions! Because YOU DESERVE IT and will find someone else if she is not able to comply!