Dissolution date is in 2 weeks. WAW28 is having serious second thoughts and put the ball back in my (M30) court to make a decision about the future. Been married 5 years, separated for 8 months, have D3, and I do not feel it is in the best interest of us, as the couple, to remain married. But for the sake of D3, I have never been as torn with any decision in my whole life. There is OM in the picture whom W says she will absolutely give up IF I can commit to trying on the marriage again. After months of spying and catching her in repeated lies about how much time she was spending with OM, talking, going places, etc, I cannot trust W. So why is this a difficult decision still. Why subject D to a maariage that is broken as far as trust is concerned? Mostly afraid to death of possibly closing the door on marriage and leaving OM wide open avenue to influence my D, in other words, seems like I'm just giving up too easily and letting this happen to me instead of fighting for my family. But the trust is gone...can't live life everyday wondering if WAW is going to revert and restart contact with OM. This is a great site that has helped me immensely over the months with DB tactics, and to some degree they seemed to have worked to get her back in my corner...but I really suspect it is just nerves on her part with the close pending court date. I would appreciate anyone's wise thoughts.
M30 W28 D3 Married 5 years EA began 4/09 Separated 12/09 Found out OM's major presence 1/10
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10
