You have alot to deal with- but the first step is you have identified what you need to change and you are doing it. I can tell you are committed to change and therefore you WILL succeed. Some people never get to that stage- it's easier to blame others for OUR shortcomings. Denial is helpful for no one.
The DB and 180 sure pinpoint our problem areas. It's helpful.
I am sorry your childhood was less than easy. I too, came from a dysfunctional family. My father was away a lot working and my mother was unable to cope raising 4 kids. She was passive/aggressive. She would tell my dad when he came home a few days each week, all the "bad" stuff all 4 of us kids did wrong and we'd get beaten (would be considered child abuse these days), even though it might have been 4-5 days after the fact! That screws up kids for sure. I am NOT blaming my current sitch on that, but I do believe how we are raised does have some bearing on how we react/act as adults. With that said, my H came from an alcoholic family. H is not an alcoholic, but he saw the damage and I am sure it scarred him.H is a very emotionally detached person. Everyone has their coping mechanisms.
Thanks for the insight. I like what you said, that you are going to help others even if you need correcting while doing it. That type of mindset is what is so unique about this site.We all can give our input, and different perspectives. It's all good!
