Anyway, as far as your friend is concerned, you may be idealizing her a bit. The reason I say this is my W is like your friend and I have fallen in the trap of idealizing her and this has the same effect on me as it does on you. One thing I have learned is people with seemingly perfect lives can be really unhappy....Food for thought.
Yes, that sounds right 12. And I'm surprised, I didn't realize you'd been experiencing that with your W. I'm sorry to hear that, but glad to hear you realized what was going on.
You know, I think I look(ed) at my H that way a lot too; really not surprising I guess when I consider how low my self esteem had been. I deferred to his judgement for so long and dismissed my own. Good grief here I was knocking him for doing it to me; well I was right there with him, doing it to myself too. Huh. Just thinking out loud here - no need to answer - I wonder if he felt that, I mean, me leaning on him for so long? I wonder how that felt to him and how (if?) it played out in our negative patterns?
Anyways, I'd been thinking about getting that book this week, so your suggestion to read it was timely. I did go out and pick it up today; have been reading it this aft. Thanks for letting me know it helped you.
PS - congrats on the successful mid-year review! That's really exciting! I remember a few months back you'd been having such a tough time focusing on work, while everything was so chaotic at home. What a challenge, and to work through it so successfully. I'm very pleased for you!
PPS - Isn't that something your boss picked up on that! So? What are you doing to do to celebrate your success!?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
