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I keep chuckling about this. There is no logical reason for your wife to care if you are having sex with anther woman if she is done. There is no logical reason for her to insist on (hypocritical) celibacy by YOU if SHE is DONE.

Your sexual activities will not change the value of the home at all man... lol

Your wife's attachment to you is screaming loud and clear there

She wants to screw around behind your back, but she doesn't want YOU to be with another woman...

Right, she's done...

Dude you told me YOU were done WEEKS ago... NEITHER of you are done. Your wife sin't any more done than YOU are.

When she moves in with this other guy she's gonna be chatting you up on the internet and flirting with you behind this other guys' back... I can almost guarantee it.

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She said she is taking that stance BECAUSE I took the same stance when we first separated, the "no dating" "no sex".

She also says that since she has her OWN place, that what happens there is none of my business, BUT she STILL has to follow the law regarding Adultery and being married. And she "says" she won't sleep with anyone.

Her problem is if I had girls back at the HOUSE where SHE is STILL paying HALF the Mortgage.

She thinks own apartment = her business. Paying mortgage = it is her business.

I'm not saying I believe this, but that's what she is SAYING.

Like "You realize we are still married, right"

OH, BUT she says "dating" in fine, and "seeing" other people, but just NO PHYSICAL CONTACT. Huh???? Seriously? Like she's going to "date" someone for the next 4 months and NOT sleep with them? Riiiiight.


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When she moves in with this other guy she's gonna be chatting you up on the internet and flirting with you behind this other guys' back... I can almost guarantee it.


I can guarantee this too, with the magical mystical OM #5. The one you told me to create but I had already done right?

He's going to be having ALOT of chats with her. But then again, she might be cheating on him with ME too if you are correct?

She did seem very wierded out when she said "I think you have been seeing someone". Like it was almost a slap in the face and it hurt her to say it.

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No dude, I am telling you she will chat YOU up and flirt with you as yourself...

Once she's in that place with that guy and he starts belching, farting, scratching his crotch, and gets himself drunk and passes out on the floor in front of the TV she's gonna be looking for someone else...

I can pretty much guarantee you that when she is out of that house and she sees you enjoying your life without her and indifferent she will get curious.. its pretty standard...

You will be the exciting fantasy alternative and the guy she's living with will lose his excitement gradually...

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Originally Posted By: Quicksilver264

She did seem very wierded out when she said "I think you have been seeing someone". Like it was almost a slap in the face and it hurt her to say it.


THAT part I believe is sincere...

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Originally Posted By: Quicksilver264

Her problem is if I had girls back at the HOUSE where SHE is STILL paying HALF the Mortgage.

She thinks own apartment = her business. Paying mortgage = it is her business.

I'm not saying I believe this, but that's what she is SAYING.

Like "You realize we are still married, right"

OH, BUT she says "dating" in fine, and "seeing" other people, but just NO PHYSICAL CONTACT. Huh???? Seriously? Like she's going to "date" someone for the next 4 months and NOT sleep with them? Riiiiight.


OK, tell her you will just go to "her place" then... Not a problem.

Let her wrestle with that for a while...

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I understand what she's saying and her position. And I understand you don't agree.

My point is that she's attached to you still.. That's the subtext going on here...

Seriously, like a woman staying the night in that home after she's moved out is giong to lower the retail value?

Sure it is... What I am saying is WHY the celibacy... WHY is it her business who you sleep with...

Sure, she says becuase its her home... but WHY would this matter?

From her claims the home is just a material item for sale... NO EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT to it at all because she's "done"... Remmber she said she's done?

If she's done then the only interest in that house is resale value.. and you having a partner over for the night won't affect that...

There's attachment there still... It's obvious as anything...

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I would buy a draw chain lock and put it on the door after she's moved out.

I would tell her that chain goes on the door at 8 pm and doesn't get removed until 10 am the next day.

She can visit between teh hours of 10 am and 8 pm provided she offers you 24 hours notice.

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This is the thing dude, she thinks she can keep an eye on you but that she' can play around behind your back... She wants "hand" yet again .. She gets off on it.

I think that's why she's playing these sex games with these men over the phone and the PC... It gives her a rush of power... She gets off on it...

She may be intimidated by you in some way, your intelligence, etc...

I aint a shrink, but her games are pretty transparent...

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Question : When she started playing like she was being civil (and it was a game, she wasn't being civil.. She's lying to you and you know that.. It's an act, its not civility, its manipulation) was her mother present?

How was she behaving when her mother was there?

Did her behaviour change when her mother wasn't present?

I am curious how her behaviour may change in her mother's presence if it all...

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