Yes, it is standard MO for MLC. Again, You and I know damn well all those years were not how they say it was. Re-written history.
They convince themselves that we are the problem for unhappiness.
If you get hung up on those why doesn't he want me tapes then you
are going to find yourself in a place you don't want to be. Realize again that you were not the reason for his unhappiness.
This is their personal journey that was going to happen. The trigger could have been anything and you may never know what it
was. Could not of stopped whatever it was anyway and just means
a different trigger would have activated the Alien tractor beam
from the mothership. This program that is now running is a self guided tour into their own personal hell. You get this time for
your own self reflection and not everybody gets this opportunity.
Nobody can say it will turn out the way you want so you have to
be prepared for the worst. Now, your worst could also turn out
to be your best. I have a friend from work that went through this
with her H and he was diagnosed low on Testosterone. He got a little better after treatment but she had enough of the crazyness
and just let him go. She now married up and seems extremely happy. I have met the new guy and I could see why she is happy now. She says it is the best thing that could of ever happened and was a gift. She said her XH was just getting more and more unhappy and put all of the blame on her. She knows it was MLC and
did not want to stand like us. No kids made it easier for her and
I could see how it would be a lot easier to give up on a MLC'r.
Listen to what the others say about if your H says something that stings. That is my problem right now. I am so numb that
the spew that is supposed to sting I am having a tough time
sorting out. I have always done well financially and had a steady
good paying job throughout but she admitted that it would have been nicer if I could have just been a brain surgeon. Then she would not have to worry about money so much. (Truth is, we have never had to worry about money at all) If your H is not doing the selfish dance, he isn't playing the game right and it may not
be MLC. Just like he isn't playing the game right if he was not fake nice to everyone else. I have seen my wife do this and it
is just plain nauseating. It also screams loud and clear MLC.
So, keep posting here, keep venting here, it helps us here to read and concur that this stuff not only happening to ourselves.