I think you and I are just having one of those bad sad days.
Think about it- all the hard work we have done with DB/180 truly has been for US. WE are the beneficiaries. I just realized this after I pulled my head out of you know where.
If you check out the other sitchs, most get divorced no matter what they do to "save" the M. I think once we accept the DB/180 is really for ourselves, we become strong and not just "fake" strong, but truly strong.