I find it comical that you didn't even challenge her roomate or anything and she had to tell you a relationship you aren't even in the know about is platonic...
Your wife's deceptiveness is transparent... When she feels guilty and is knee deep in lies she asserts the falsehood outright thinking it convinces people she's telling the truth...
I found a list she made of things to pack, and she is DEFINITELY planning on taking things that we agreed she wouldn't
Why is it that she feels a sense of ENTITLEMENT to take WHATEVER SHE WANTS?
Like I am MAD AS HELL right now. But I don't want to be over the top confrontational.
I was in your boot's four months ago and wife provided me with a list of things she wanted as well. I to was mad as hell. My friends and family said.....really on a large scale douse any of this stuff mean anything to you, is it worth the fight. Let it go. I lost it all, but it can always be replaced. When it came to photo's wife had made copies a long time prier to the move. Everything else was superficial. Funny thing, you should have seen how big my home was once all of the nick knack sht was removed.
As all men know "we are the ones who loose in every aspect of your situation" it is the way of the world.
I left the morning of the move with my girls, I remember leaving the driveway and the wife sitting at the front door waving goodbye with tears in her eyes. Etched in the mind forever.
Be strong it is emotionally gut wrenching for you at the moment I feel for you considerable.
I also remember the first time I opened up the front door and saw the extra house keys sitting on the middle of an empty livingroom. I collapsed and cried my face off.
Did you say anything to provoke her mother to get involved or did her mother come in ready to blast you and was just looking for an excuse?
I told my wife that I didn't want her coming back into the house. That set her mom off because my wife is still paying half the mortgage.
And my wife says she can and will come by ANYTIME she wants to check that I am upkeeping the house, to see my dog and bring her dog, and "maybe even have people over if I want". And to MAKE SURE no girls are over here!!!!!
And my wife and I had another talk, where I mentioned that is was SO HYPOCRITICAL to mention adultery. She said "We are still married and that means we can't sleep with other people. I am NOT going to, and it will be a period of celibacy".
I then told her I didn't believe her, and that I half thought she had already slept with someone else. She said "The last person I had sex with was you back in April".
All in all she is covering something up, and went out of her way saying "A relationship is the LAST thing I want".
The thing is EVERY BIT OF INTEL I HAVE SAYS OTHERWISE. Wow what a liar!
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
"I just want this to be over with. I will work with you as much as possible. I want you to know that I will always work with you to make this easy".
"How do you want this to end? If it ends well, we can meet and let the dogs see each other at the dog park. You could dog sit for me if I needed so you can see him".
The REALLY weird thing is after the bad exchange, we talked again and she was COMPLETELY calm, and very nice, and seemingly vulnerable.
All she kept talking about was the mortgage, and selling the house. She said she wants to be totally free of the house, and then jsut get the divorce paperwork signed.
Then I brought up the adultery thing again, and that's when she said the thing about not having sex since April with me. And she reiterated that she wouldn't sleep with someone until the divorce was final either.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Your wife ain't done dude she's angry.. big difference.
Well why was she so calm and rational today then? Apart from the blowup about her coming into the house, she was VERY civil, calm, and rational. Like I said, a little bit tender and vulnerable at times.
Can someone angry about the whole process be that nice and civil?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
I would totally call her on the adultery and tell her she's already been cheating on you and you caught her TWICE. Tell her she is no position to be trusted right now.
I would talk to your lawyer about her showing up whenever she wants to.. I would tell her unless she's prepared to surrender a key to HER new place that she can only come over if she makes an appointment.
You sticking to her not being allowed over will send a very clear message to her that you are not clinging...
She thinks she can use you like a doormat. You could trap her and tell her OK, so if I catch you with any other man in the next three months even flirting then you will turn the house over to me completely?
Signed sealed and delivered full ownership?
Ha ha... she's walking right into a trap that route.. but you would have to get her to sign something she would never admit she made that agreement otherwise...
Your wife is a brilliant poker player, she can lie with a straight face and use any emotion she has to manipulate people... You've seen it
Bark and cry, bark and cry... Now she's trying "nice"...
Dude, she's not over you. It's been ten years... its gonna take her at least a year to get you out of her system. Attachment isn't a lightswitch... she's good at HIDING it is all...
And she's not being civil.. she's lyign to you and making promises she is ALREADY breaking before she even makes them to you... She tells you she doens't want to sleep with anyone but she's been plotting sex romps, having internet sex and phone sex with how many men?
Don't let her civil tone fool you into thinking she's going to be fair... She's lying right from the start.. You KNOW that.
All she's doing is trying to APPEAR civil to your face, and behind your back she will screw you over silly...
Do NOT fall for this game of hers, she has her mother completely fooled by it... Don't you be a sucker too...
She is NOT over you She is NOT to be trusted.. Don't make ANY VERBAL DEALS with her
If you agree to the dog sit and walks in teh park you know what she's going to say behind your back?
That you are pathetic and you STILL can't let go and you are a BIG SUCKER
Dude, she's going to police your home to make sure you have NO WOMEN over while she has phone sex with one guy and lives with another.. and she thinks she can do this all under your nose and lie to your face about it... And to her mother...
The first chance she gets to take advantage of you she will do it and not feel bad about it... She's getting a kick out of hurting you.. I have seen this before on here...
She's NOT over you and the way she processes that right now is to SCREW you OVER
