I realize I upset you the other day but I have to say to you,
Originally Posted By: pinhead
I've been reading Robx's original thread for inspiration
you have bigger cahounas then prince charming himself.
she shut you down. you ask her to leave. sounds to me like you, like it or not, are beginning to Know Yourself. this is an important step in the right direction. pinhead.
you're handle should be PIN TRIPLE X HARDCORE.
Originally Posted By: LeeSC
Originally Posted By: pinhead
But it's also painful to me because I haven't detached enough. Perhaps I won't be able to until she moves out.
Its get worse when they move out. It sucks.
I would like to say I respectfully disagree, but the word respect is thrown around here so much, my using it would be trite.
I righteously disagree with you that "it gets worse." Don't be so depressive.
And, as a matter of fact, was the best thing at the time and the only thing that probably would have saved my marriage. Not only did it it give us time to learn and experience apart, but it gave us time to learn and experience ourselves and learn and experience each other again. I am going to leave it at that.
If the goal is "keeping her" then be her "friend" and help her to move and let her realize that her goal also needs to be "keeping you."
I'll make one more comment, on something you wrote,
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But when I'm with her, I'm going to be sexy, charming, funny,
it works a whole of a hell of a lot better for you, if you when you see her you ARE
emphasis on "ARE" not "pretending to be"
it works a whole of a hell of a lot better for you, if you when you see her you ARE busy, and suppose to be some place and meet someone and do something exciting. "The chase is better than the catch." You need to have her thinking he is "sexy, charming, funny" and wondering and wishing he was being " sexy, charming, funny" with me. Otherwise, they don't have a reason to call you unless it is for money or to watch the kids.
