I arrived at that conclusion because H and I have a sx less M. H stated he needs that in his life, in order to be happy, his words. So, I assumed, because I am hurting, he'd have other women here, asap. I based that on his past, that is what H does. H replaces women quickly, easily.
I realize it's none of my business what H does after I leave, and is counterproductive to think along those lines. Things are just very raw for me. It hasn't been a month since the bomb dropped. I am still adjusting.
You are right, I know I am a pessimist. I realize that and I am working on making changes. Obviously I am far from there yet. I will Google Seligman.
When H said all he said, I took at face value, H meant it. I have lived with H for almost 15 years, he carefully picks his words and only says what he means. I don't always mean what I say. Another thing I need to change.
H doesn't think I want him? I told him this morning splitting up is not what I want. H stated there is NO hope we can stay a couple. Why shouldn't I believe him.
Most likely the subtle nuances of this roller coaster ride are passing me by.I am struggling with the DB/180, as I feel it is giving me a false sense of hope.
I told H I was sorry I hurt him and didn't wish to hurt him anymore.
I know, all new relationships will fail if we don't do an autopsy on why the last one failed.
