Susan - I have been following your thread. I'm very sad and sorry for you. I know (being divorced myself) there isn't much anyone can say or do to help you feel any better. I just wanted to tell you to make sure you lean on family and friends right now. When I was going through it, my friends eventually were tired of hearing me talk about it...however, they stood by me and listened anyway, because I just kept leaning on them. Finally, eventually, things get better (it can take a long time, though). But until then, I also advise you to have a good counselor at your disposal if you can manage it. As you already know, your H isn't going to let you lean on him. He appears to be 100% unemotional about this and isn't willing to help you through the emotions. So you need professional help and family/friends. I think you said you have a couple more coaching sessions, which is great. But please do explore more help after that.
There is such a thing as a "divorce coach". It sounds so odd, but these professionals are specifically trained in the emotions that come up during the divorce process. If you have access to one (your L may be able to point you in the right direction) they can be invaluable. They help you process the emotions during the hardest time of your life, while you are expected to be unemotional in front of lawyers and splitting up your life. They understand how this takes a toll on a person. Many other types of counselors can help too, but divorce coaches have this as their specialty. If you can swing it, I'd say get both.
I used to work for a very kind and wise collaborative divorce attorney. She always recommended divorce coaches to her clients, and those who took her up on that advice always came through the process much easier. Those who didn't had a lot harder time of recovering from the whole process.
As LeeSC said, it ain't over til its over and there may still be some kind of change in your situation, so I don't mean to imply you are definitely getting divorced. But at the same time, you need to prepare as if you are...I hope you already have an attorney and some counseling in line.
