Mish,

There is no need to talk to Gabe, texting and email work fine. Simply advise him that he has violated your boundary by initiating contact with OW. Time for him to move out or take real action:

-- No contact call or letter
-- Plan to get help
-- Show you he wants to be with you, you won't be second, and you won't be first if there is a second or potential seconds in the wings.

Stop avoiding, stand up for yourself. You NEED to treat yourself with decency and respect.


Best,
Oldtimer