. H said once I am out, I will need to call before I visit my pet. Basically implied he will have someone at the house. That is, of course going to happen (dating for H as soon as he can do it, not high on my list), but how about NOT rubbing my nose in it.
So how did you arrive at that conclusion?
Mind-reading is counterproductive and unattractive. Your H is not attracted to you, do you understand why? He feels like you don't want him, his positive emotions are turned off towards you.
Google Martin Seligman and Learned Optimism. You have a pessimistic style of thinking. How you think causes you to feel defeated. Change your thinking and you change your feelings. Whether you you save your M or not your next relationship will follow the same dynamics until you become aware of how you "see" the world. I promise Seligman will help you if you do the work.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
