I can tell this is eating you up. I believe being apart is better. It will give you the space to grow, and will give her the space to miss you. I myself feel being under the same roof there is still tension. Since she is working more and I am staying busy we do not see each other as much. It takes the "itch" off the sitch!
Tonight I will be fun happy and dressed to impress. We are going to church with friends and they are riding horses tomorrow. W gets off work at 4, I will be gone looking at a house(she does not know this) if she asks I will tell her "i went to look at a house". Not going to rub anything in. Pin I think you and I are somewhat in similar situations, that is why I tell you what I do, and I believe you do the same on my thread.