After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Allen A]

How important are the things she's taking?

Is this on principle mostly or is she taking the most expensive things?

QS... you can take them FIRST can't you?

When is she starting this packing project?

Take them now so she can't have them.

[Quicksilver264]

I think then I am going to go with 2).

THEN, when SHE CONFRONTS ME, I can remain calm and level-headed, and just say:

"We had an agreement on the items you would take. You broke that agreement, and I will not be lied to and disrespected. The items in question are mine, and I have placed them in safe custody in order to protect my property from your disregard for my personal things"

Basically, I bring her INTO MY SPACE, and make HER confront. She has a temper, and therefore I can be the calm one and let HER emotions get the best of her.

[Allen A]

I think if you were there with a friend who wont' care if she throws a fit and won't feel awkward you would do best...

Not being there makes you look cowardly

I would be there with a friend, make sandwiches or a bbq and watch them with a smile on my face... Not mean or smug just

Indifferent

This is a chance to show her you will enjoy the home without her there... Before she's even left

And you can call her on taking anything that she agreed would stay

But I honeslty think you should take the things that matter most you think she may take and store them elsewhere...


This is the exact reason I advocated you packing her stuff before she did it.

[Quicksilver264]

This is the exact reason I advocated you packing her stuff before she did it.

Little glitch in my intel got me. She moved up her move in date 10 days, as I had planned to do all that WHILE SHE WAS AWAY.


Now she is moving in and THEN going away for 3 weeks, not the other way around.

I HAD to do it this way, as she HAD NOT PAID ME for this months utilities yet.

She paid me, and then 2 days later shifted her move in date EARLIER and started packing.

[Allen A]

I gave you a 3)

3) Take the things that are important to you away NOW so they are safe. Be there with some friends indifferent to her move - enjoy the summer afternoon with a smile on your face just watching

[Allen A]

Yup, i understand... I am just saying that this thing is something you want to avoid if you can.. I am hoping other's are reading and may learn something...

Waiting for your spouse to move their own things out will NOT end well for you...

Guys - MOVE THEM OUT FIRST - always

[Allen A]

Take 3 if you can pull it off last minute...

Take the important things away now, have a bbq and watch the show with a smile

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I think if you were there with a friend who wont' care if she throws a fit and won't feel awkward you would do best...

Not being there makes you look cowardly

I would be there with a friend, make sandwiches or a bbq and watch them with a smile on my face... Not mean or smug just

Indifferent

This is a chance to show her you will enjoy the home without her there... Before she's even left

And you can call her on taking anything that she agreed would stay

But I honeslty think you should take the things that matter most you think she may take and store them elsewhere...


This is the exact reason I advocated you packing her stuff before she did it.

this. ^ Bring a buddy over; watch the game.

Puppy

[Quicksilver264]

Well no buddies that could come over on such short notice, so I went with 1) and was here when they got here. I HAD to be sure of what they were taking.

It got UGLY REAL FAST

We started civil about what she was taking, and then got to her coming back to the house AFTER she was moved out came up:

I said: You are not welcome here, and I don't want you here, and my lawyer says you can't come back.

She said: I have the right to be here ANYTIME I want

Then her MOM jumps in on it and SCREAMS AT ME.

Basically the gist of the whole nasty exchange was that I was being spiteful and vindictive. Her mom basically now DESPISES me.

Also my wife brought up the issue of "adultery" and me/her sleeping with other people. She admitted to me she was getting a "roommate" but "she will NOT be sleeping with him". Like she said "You can't have GIRLS over MY house".

She mentioned to me "I think you are sleeping with someone else because of posts on your Facebook". So I guess Allen you were right when you said she was checking my Facebook because she is DONE and is JUST checking up to see if I am with someone else.

And my wife said she will no longer be sleeping here, and her and her parents are coming next Sunday to move her out.

Man that was an UGLY morning. Her mom came at me with EVERYTHING she had, and said "I now see the type of person you are and why she left you". Her mom even said that I was "holding desperately on" by staying in the house. I didn't lose my cool AT ALL, but I saw just how DONE my wife and her mom are with me.

Funny, somehow I thought there was still some sort of hope after my wife moved out, like she would come to her senses when reality set in. Now that BOTH her parents are LIVID with me, she has all the support she needs.

At least she isn't taking anything she isn't supposed to be. It just sucks that that I don't ever have a prayer with her again.

[Allen A]

Well your wife is a carbon copy of her mother so they are gonna be the same way.. i am not surprised at all there..

And their mind reading tactics are getting quite stale and almost comic... Who do they think they are The Amazing Kreskin?

They don't know the emotions that motivate you and it's comical that they would make some amateurish analysis as an attack and throw it at you...

Spiteful is your wife's middle name..

Your wife ain't done dude she's angry.. big difference.