I've been reading Robx's original thread for inspiration, since my sitch will soon be where his thread seems to have started.
I decided to lead today. Got back from signing the lease on my Honda, and decided that it was time to set things right.
I asked my W to step outside while I cleaned the bbq, and said that we should decide now about our Golden Retriever. We both agreed that giving her to this family would be the best thing for her.
After that I said that I needed to know what she wanted for us. She said that she thought she still needed space, to move out. I said ok, agreed that we couldn't be happy with the way things are right now in the house. I pressed her to look at this 1-bedroom nearby. She really wants into this nice subsidized townhome complex nearby, but she doesn't know how long it'll take for an opening. I'm not going to have her stay here for 6 months. So we agreed that we would both look at the 1-bedroom this week while waiting for a letter from the housing authority telling her how far back she is on the list.
So that's progress. I acted confident and strong. Made sure that she understood that it wasn't really what I wanted, but that I accepted her choices. We had some small talk about which furnishings would go where etc. and no real conflicts.
