I decided during H's and I's meeting this morning, I am done trying to change myself so H changes his mind. I finally am resolved the M is over.I will continue the changes for myself, and only for myself.
H is so cut and dried, and cold- acts like the whole M meant nothing. Anyway, I cannot keep "trying" when all indications are H is done. The logical engineer in H showed in an ugly form this morning. H said once I am out, I will need to call before I visit my pet. Basically implied he will have someone at the house. That is, of course going to happen (dating for H as soon as he can do it, not high on my list), but how about NOT rubbing my nose in it.
I need to retain my self respect and I won't be doing any more to try to convince H through my "positive actions" that he's making a mistake ending M. H wants OUT of the M, so that is what he will get. H's mind is set and that is that.
I still have two phone coaching sessions, but will use these for helping myself cope.
Hang in there, I hope all works out for you and your H!
