That's where aggressively affair-busting, and a hardball legal stance can earn you "points," even if she doesn't act like she concedes them at the time.
That question is the one of the reasons I have a hard time with the "letting them go" approach (altho make no mistake, it DOES work). Depending on your past marital style, and any LEGITIMATE past relationship complaints she may have (example: "He's too passive, and doesn't assert himself often enough"), it MAY backfire if you just let them go.
Yet, when she's wayward, you can't PURSUE her.
To me, the "solution" is to fight the divorce with everything you've got -- LEGALLY and AFFAIR-BUSTING-wise.
As for this:
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I'm not going to respond to the deadline. To be honest, i feel like she has shifted a lot of the divorce work onto me.
I do not want this divorce! Any suggestions on how to approach this subject when she brings up the lawyer? I want this marriage to work, but it is very apparent that she does not want to put in any work towards it.
you should say something like:
(in your best President Obama impersonation) "Let me be clear. This divorce is YOUR idea, not mine. It's still not what I want. I'm not going to FIGHT you on it, other than to make sure me and our kids are protected and treated fairly, but I'm NOT going to speed things along just to meet YOUR deadline, either. This is your deal, and I'm going to be as careful as I need to be."
