You have to be careful how you back off though. Its not cut and dry, every situation is different. If your wife thinks you have not been there for her or that you didnt love her and you back totally off, I promise you she wont be back. I can see not pressuring every time you speak, that makes sense. You have to decide what fits your sitch the best. Its not just plan A or B. If your wife has not had a affair of any kind or the affair is over, Im not sure backing totally off is a great plan for all.
