In my sitch, I guess I am not sure if it's not being patient or just not wanting to allow cake-eating. Such a fine line! I keep leaning more towards being tougher... if you don't want to work on the M, get out. That's why I hesitate to allow H to stay in the house if he is still feeling "wayward". Yet, I know it takes time to come around. Even S16 agrees that it is emotional abuse for H to stay in the home with always looking toward the door....
I just am trying to stay reasonable but not cake eating so that he doesn't have to make a decision.
