Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Thanks for the 2x4's guys - I need them to wack me back into shape. I went 5 days before she came home being non-needy, not contolling, or anything. The moment she comes back I forget all that I have somewhat learned and tried to execute.

It's a pattern with us though, and I should have expected this. Every single time she comes back from a trip, that night we have a fight. ALWAYS. It's like a written script, I should have remembered that.

Woke up this morning, left her in bed. She shortly came out afterwards and was a little snuggly on the cough, put her feet up on me while I surfed the inet.

As far as getting her those small things, I don't think it's a big deal. In the past one of my things was I only thought about myself. She always hated that, pointed it out all the time. I said nothing about the toothpaste, S4's new toothbrush, some shampoo. She said nothing either. I just know she noticed, that's all. If she brings it up, I'll say "It's just something I wanted to do." and leave it at that.

This morning she noticed the mirror I had hung on the back of our door, and she said, "Where did you get that?" I told her I picked it up last week. Nothing more. She said, "I've been wanting one forever!"

She's an acts of service and quality time LL person. I'm not cramming it down her face - I'm just plotting along doing some of those things and saying NOTHING about them and seeking no validation. And honestly, it makes me feel good. It makes me feel like the "good" John, which I like.

Anyways - thanks for the 2x4's. I'm not going to let her control me or my emotions this weekend. I'm just going to do my thing, do what I need to do to avoid all R talks, and employ some of those sentences that Puppy gave me if the R talk is broached by her.

Thanks guys - I needed a kick in the nuts.