I feel like an idiot for going against the game plan and caving after only three days, but I am who I am. I've always been up front with her and never held back.
So which one is it, I'mLost -- did you screw up, or "are you who you are"???
You can't just intentionally screw up like this. Not more than once or twice -- maybe three times. It doesn't do you much good to be distant with her texts all day (btw, not answer them at all, or answer them later with an upbeat "Sorry, just saw these -- been a busy day! What's up?" is MUCH better than immediate, one-word answers, which only make you look desperate and angry and/or pouty), only to then ask her TO CALL YOU IF SHE WANTS TO TALK.
Here's the thing, I.L. We all have to come to the realization that "Who We Are" GOT us to our predicaments in the first place. That's why Michele calls it a "180." If you're just going to do a "0" instead of a "180," flippantly and stubbornly saying "but I am who I am," and "I don't hold back," then you'll still be on this same forum two years from now, beating your head against your marital wall.
