Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

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As long as you refuse to (or are afraid to?) implement even the most basic DB strategies that have been suggested to you, you're going to end up in a never-ending series of these cheeseless tunnels.

I think so too. He says he gave her stuff (yuck, considering...) without expectations, but now we read about his obvious disappointment, so that wasn't honest.

He's trying to convince her, he's trying to change her mind, he's caught up in a power struggle for control.

The only solution is to stop that completely. If she wants to go, let her go. If part of the problem has been that she doesn't feel validated, then any struggle against what she is feeling is going to push her away. The more he pulls, the more she has to struggle to be free. The solution is to let her be free, and then if she chooses to return to the M, fine. If not, that's fine too.

The only thing we can control is ourselves, on the other hand, so she can't make him do anything either. He also needs to set himself free.